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Hello, play with meee!! |
Chihuahuas. Everyone knows I love them and I’m not put off
by their often unpredictable personalities.
I will be honest here: I’m a bit hesitant to write this post because I
don’t want to harm Pickles’s reputation and chances of adoption, but at the
same time I want to stay true to my blog’s purpose. In case I've strayed from
the main purpose, I began this blog to share both the joys and the challenges
of fostering. I don’t want to abandon that simply for the sake of diplomacy.
I had a tough day yesterday as a foster mom and as a
Chihuahua lover. The day began with a super exciting message from an awesome
rescue group who wanted to meet Pickles. We jumped in the car and drove to the
shelter. Pickles did great with the first two ladies who met him, but my heart
sank when he bit the third rescue lady. No physical harm happened; fortunately,
the lady wore a heavy leather jacket that protected her skin. Unfortunately,
that promptly ended Pickles’s meet and greet.
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I smile when I sleep! |
I’m writing this to vent my frustration and discouragement,
but also to share my love for this little dog and hopefully get people to see
what I see: a good, sweet, loving boy who is still learning to trust and is
desperate to find someone who understands him. Pickles is not a vicious dog and
no one is claiming that he is. I don’t want to seem as though I’m ok with the fact
that he bit the rescue lady or making excuses for his behavior. I just want to
promote awareness of a Chihuahua’s emotional plight in hopes of breaking
through the barriers posed by reactive behavior and behavioral labeling.
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I'm super cute, squishy, & snuggly! |
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I know you want to play! |
I wanted to cry the whole drive home, but I couldn't. I
could only think about how I could have better prepared Pickles for the meeting
and how I can help him going forward. Clearly, Pickles needs more work. That’s
on me. Prior to the meet and greet yesterday, Pickles had never experience a
group encounter since we brought him home from the shelter. Perhaps that’s why
he lost his cool when the third rescuer approached him. Everyone used good body
language; no one ran toward him or shoved hands in his face. He might have just
been overwhelmed by meeting a group of new people all at once or felt
protective of me. Then there’s the environmental factor. While we didn't go
inside the loud shelter, the parking lot and grassy areas are still full of
crazy dog smells and strange stimuli. Even if Pickles didn't recognize where he
was, he knew he was in a foreign place. Finally, I was really nervous about the
meet and greet. I’m sure Pickles sensed my anxiety and fed off of that. All of
these factors can be very stressful for a dog, especially a dog who is still
learning how to properly socialize. Pickles just wasn't ready. I haven’t
equipped him with the socialization and coping skills he needed to do well in
that situation.
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I have so much love to share, can't you see? |
Chihuahuas are tough little dogs to crack. Any dog can be “mean”;
Chis aren't naturally nasty just like Pit Bulls aren't naturally vicious. They
simply respond to stress in ways that are often inappropriate because of their
insecurity. Size has a lot to do with it, “fight or flight” has a lot to do
with it, and under-socialization has a lot to do with it. Pickles needs more
work, more time to learn how to trust, and more time to learn how to respond to
everyday occurrences. He’s not mean, he’s not hopeless, and he’s not
unadoptable. He is simply a work in progress. So what do I do next? I keep
working with him until he gains confidence and understands that he doesn't have
to be so afraid all the time. Pickles is a cake-walk compared to Flea; I can do
this. He can do this. We will not give up. I know I’m a crazy Chihuahua lady,
but I know I am not the only one. I will work every day to make people see what
I see in Pickles and we will find his perfect match. I know he or she is out
there somewhere.
P.S.: Thankfully, Pickles is feeling MUCH better since my previous blog post. His cough is still kind of lingering, but it is greatly reduced and he really feels good. He says thanks for all the pawsitive thoughts!